Good manners

[COG]

A forum like this can be a great source of information and advice. It's also a vehicle for sourcing and selling items. However there would appear to be a number of users who don't have any concept of basic good manners. Apart from quite rudely, not giving people the opportunity to air differing views, I would also consider it a matter of courtesy to respond to threads one has posted.
In the past few months I have enquired about several ' for sale' items, sent PM's and texts, and have been roundly ignored. It's quite possible that the various cars/items have been sold.... But would it not be reasonable to say so?
Is it just me?
Rant over.

[Darzee]

If people post on several forums it is not always possible to gp back and respond to every thread, especially if they are selling a number of items.

[Peggy]

My sentiments exactly, in the past week I have responded to two posts one where it took about 3 days for a response only to find that the article had been sold and the other no response at all!! :

[Darzee]

Think people forget to check back , if they are on more than one forum.

[Keithcaley]

One point to remember, you can always click on the 'email' icon to communicate directly with a member, then they'll see your message even if they don't log back onto the Forum for a while.

Personally, if I see something that I want to buy, and there's 'phone number posted, then I ring the number pronto, and actually speak to them - it works wonders!

[COG]

Well thank you Keith for the rather patronising suggestion that people can be contacted directly! My point was, where a phone contact is not answered, and I leave a voice or text message, I STILL have had no response!
I take the point about multiple fora, but nevertheless, once an expensive item, such as a car, has been sold, surely it's not hard to just post 'now sold' on all.

[Groucho]

Well thank you Keith for the rather patronising suggestion that people can be contacted directly!

Hmm, not a very well tempered reply to a quite non-confrontational response..... COG you are taking things far too personally. I can vouch for the fact that Keith was not trying to score points at your expense... Please try and not get too wound-up - this is a forum where people post to advise others not always the immediately previous poster.

[COG]

Thanks Groucho,
I suppose that can be the difficulty with the written word/text.........
I actually found the direct contact suggestion quite funny, and am really not 'wound up'
I've just been a bit surprised and a bit disappointed at the responses of some people, particularly those trying to sell items, and wondered if I was alone in this experience.

[Keithcaley]

Thanks Groucho,
I suppose that can be the difficulty with the written word/text.........
I actually found the direct contact suggestion quite funny, and am really not 'wound up'
I've just been a bit surprised and a bit disappointed at the responses of some people, particularly those trying to sell items, and wondered if I was alone in this experience.

Hi COG, I'm sorry - stating one's own preference, especially when it appears to be 'bleeding obvious' to someone else, can come across as patronising, and I really didn't mean it to be.

I only mentioned that I do that because I got tired of chasing things that were already sold, and some contributors seem to rely exclusively on posting responses on the forum (which, to my mind, is like relying on text messages rather than using the 'phone as a 'phone).

As you said, this only arises in the first place because of the laxity of some sellers, and I do agree with you that it is annoying when items are not marked 'sold'. I think that newcomers are probably more prone to it than regular sellers, possibly because they forget how many sites they've posted their wares on. (Oops, there goes a sentence ending in a preposition! - Groucho will nail me for that )

I would certainly consider it to be bad manners in someone who should know better, but they're not usually the culprits!

[COG]

I think it's very true that many people join sites purely to access the sales.
I have two separate items that I'm trying to source at the moment, so I shall just have to just keep pegging away, phoning directly, and hope for the best.

[Ragged Robin]

Keith: The sort of behaviour up with which one will not put?

[Darzee]

I always try and mark a post sold if it is

[Keithcaley]

Keith: The sort of behaviour up with which one will not put?

Precisely! - Convoluted though it may be

[muppet]

Hi folks just adding my 10 pence worth, i have had a number of people recently enquire about items that i am selling via PM/email/phone, asking questions requesting pictures etc. Arranging to view.
The majority have never got back, saying not for me or similar.
Even had someone make arrangements to view, then not bother to arrive, call, or answer phone when i tried to contact them.
So it can work both ways.

Just sayin..

[COG]

I suppose it really is just back to treating others as you would like to be treated, buyer or seller, posting or replying.
And, without being too cynical..... Not holding your breath